Ask Christopher West

Lingerie in Marriage, Stretch Marks, and Spiritual & Physical Intimacy with God | ACW305

November 4th, 2024  |  39 mins 53 secs

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1. What role does lingerie have in the intimate union of man & wife? Can it be a beautiful & holy part of the marital embrace? If so, how?
2. My wife and I have had our first baby recently and along with that blessing there have been some difficult changes for our early 20’s. My wife is struggling with body image issues. Unfortunately she has severe stretch marks across her abdomen as a result of the pregnancy. Acquaintances have made her feel bad about herself. She expresses concerns that I might find her ugly but I do my best to assure her that this is not the case. My love and affection for her has only grown seeing her become a mother. How can I help her see the beauty of God’s plan in all of this?
3. What exactly do you mean when you say that intimacy within marriage is a reflection of God’s love? Does God want to have intimacy with us but spiritually instead of physically?

Sexual Past of Fiancé, Moral Teaching of the Church, and Medical Student With Porn Struggle | ACW304

October 28th, 2024  |  47 mins 49 secs

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1. My fiancé shared more with me about his past and surprisingly I was calm and received him with mercy. I’m not sure if it was the initial shock of hearing him share these vulnerable moments of his past or because I had previously wondered and assumed there was some sexual brokenness there. I thank God for my response and hope that my fiancé seeing me receive him with mercy brings more healing. I know in the past when he shared difficult things with me I initially felt calm but would later experience so much pain wondering about his previous relationships. How can we deal with these things in the future?
2. We are protestants who are taking RCIA and learning about Catholicism. We’re reading your book “Good News About Sex & Marriage” and I was wondering if you could explain how Church authority & moral teaching relate to what is found in Scripture. Does the Church get its moral teaching from the Bible?
3. I am a health scientist student. I struggled with porn & lustful thoughts. In this upcoming semester there are units on female health. This would include topics regarding the female breasts and genitals. I’m worried that my past will come back during these units. Would it be responsible for me to excuse myself during these units? I know that these images and videos are not intended to be pornographic, but is it possible that they would be pornographic for me? Is pornographic imagery relative to the viewer?

Eve Out for the Rib, Am I Too Uptight?, and Loving My Husband After an Affair | ACW303

October 22nd, 2024  |  44 mins 54 secs

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1. Is there a particular theological significance of Eve being created from a rib out of Adam’s side?
2. My boyfriend enjoys watching videos & movies that fall into the comedy category, which is not my favorite genre. This is not something I enjoy. There are times when I find these movies painful to my heart because of the content they have. Am I just being too uptight? Should I try to be more open?
3. A few years ago, before I was Catholic, I got to a place that was so dark that led me to have an affair. My marriage is in a stage of reconciliation. I have an amazing husband to walk this journey with me. How do I open myself up to him and be comfortable loving him with the same body that I used to hurt him so badly?

TOB Elevator Pitch, Young Mother Open to Dating & Genuine Connection of Those With SSA | ACW302

October 15th, 2024  |  53 mins 44 secs

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1. What is a good elevator pitch for the Theology of the Body?
2. I became pregnant at 17. With the help of my parents and a pregnancy resource center, my son and I have been able to have a very happy life. He’s now 2 and I’m about to turn 20. I’m not with the father of my child. He sees his son from time to time but I’m the one who cares for him. I’m okay with this, but I just don’t know when or how would be the right way to start dating again. I’ve been single since my pregnancy began. I’ve also done a lot of work with myself and became closer to Mary & Jesus. I feel ready to meet new people but I’m not sure how to go about that. I feel isolated in my situation. Do you have any advice?
3. Can the deep genuine connection between “homosexuals” become holy by refraining from sinful behavior? What would the Church suggest for these couples to do?

M*sturbation & Using Oneself, Inviting the Lord Into Our Shameful Places, and Arranged Marriages | ACW301

October 7th, 2024  |  45 mins 56 secs

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1. When JPII talks about using another person as a means to an end I always imagine a couple but what happens in the case of a single person who seeks to give pleasure to him or herself? Is the person using him or herself? To what extend does that affect the person or others? Why does this sin leaves a feeling of loneliness?
2. How do I make steps to open those places to the Lord and to know that He’s not repulsed by what will come out and not ashamed of me because of my porn & masturbation addiction?
3. What does TOB have to say about arranged marriages?

ACW300!!! with Questions from Matt & Cameron Fradd, Jason Evert & Fr. Timothy Gallagher | ACW300

September 30th, 2024  |  43 mins 38 secs

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1. What is one way each of you has grown since you got married and what was that growing process like?
2. What your number one tip for people when discerning a future spouse?
3. What is the experience of writing a book like for you?

Is NFP Sinful?, Diving Into the Mystery of Your Spouse, and Battling Unfaithful Thoughts as a Woman | 299

September 23rd, 2024  |  57 mins 2 secs

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1. I’m part of a conservative Catholic group on Facebook. I was surprised to find that many Catholics there believe NFP is contraceptive except in the gravest circumstances. When I questioned this philosophy, they said that the fact that God gave them each of their many children is that it would've been sinful if they had abstained during those fertile times. This didn’t sit right with me. I've always felt that NFP gave me and my husband a profound respect for my body, our fertility, and spacing our family in a way that is respectful of everyone’s needs. I think it's responsible to abstain when you know you cannot take care of another baby. What are your thoughts?
2. I am in college and I've never dated. However, I'm trying to build my bank of knowledge so I can be as ready as I can when God entrusts a woman to me. That said, my question is about the metaphors you used in your Jordan Peterson & Ben Shapiro reaction video. I don't understand how one can dive into your spouse’s soul and find undiscovered treasures during sex. How can one do that without using words. How is that possible outside of prayer?
3. I am a 31 year old mother of two beautiful girls and wife to a loving husband. I've struggled with porn and masturbation for many years. Recently I’ve grown deeper in my Catholic faith; doing my best to purify my heart further by diving into my hidden thoughts. I find myself daydreaming and thinking about other men more from emotional fantasy, than from physical attraction. I want to stay mentally faithful to my husband. How can I as woman battle the temptation to have unfaithful thoughts?

Bringing Jesus Into the Marital Embrace & Struggling to Find My Wife Attractive | ACW298

September 16th, 2024  |  1 hr 1 min

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• How can I bring Jesus into the marital embrace without envisioning him sexually and in a pure and holy way?
• I’ve been struggling to find my wife attractive. Am I justified expecting my wife to shape up for looks’ sake or even for health’s sake? How much of this is the impact that porn has had on me and my perception of beauty?

When Jesus Doesn’t Have a Body, Balancing Family Worldviews, and Cremation | ACW297

September 9th, 2024  |  50 mins 48 secs

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1. How can we love Jesus on earth when he doesn’t have a body? How can prayer feel more like a full relationship and not just long distance communication
2. I was homeschooled and raised in a close knit immediate family. We never spent much time with relatives or friends and my parents always sought to solely invest in each other and their children. On the other hand, my husband was raised in a large family where relatives and friendships were very important and he still likes to get together with them. He’s also always willing to get involved with our community and it is hard for me to relate to that. To me, his desire for connection outside our immediate family feels unnatural. How can we embrace these two apparently differing worldviews in our marriage?
3. Is cremation ever acceptable in the Catholic Church?

Ordinary Mysticism, Done Having Kids?, and Buying Catholic Books | ACW296

September 2nd, 2024  |  40 mins 16 secs

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• What does JPII mean when he talks about Ordinary Mysticism?
• What would your answer be to when people ask “are you done having kids?”
• Is there a preferred method when buying books from Catholic authors?

Christian Know Thyself, Homosexuality in Nature, and Nuptial Union with Christ | ACW295

August 26th, 2024  |  57 mins 52 secs

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• I’ve heard Christoper say many times “Christian know thyself” and thought I knew what it meant but have been searching for the quote and can’t seem to find it. Where does this quote come from and what does it mean?
• How do you respond to the arguments about how homosexuality, masturbation and pedophilia are natural because animals do it?
• I’ve heard you mention that when a christian prays, he’s seeking nuptial union with Christ. How can we position our hearts to lean more into this? What would be the fruit of this union?

Not Being Desired, Uncleanliness & Burial of the Body, and Is Love Always Worth the Risk? | ACW294

August 19th, 2024  |  53 mins 15 secs

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• How can I show my nieces and nephews my true delight in them and help them feel truly loved and desired in the way that I never felt growing up?
• I would like to prepare my husband’s body for burial after death. I think I misunderstood the biblical teaching of uncleanliness and handling the dead. Can you help me sort out the fear of being unclean by touching a dead body?
• Is love worth the risk all the time? If yes, do you have a word of advice for someone who wants to love but at the same time is scared of expressing it?