Ask Christopher West

Christopher and Wendy West answer questions about faith, life, love, and sexuality, in light of John Paul II's Theology of the Body.

About the show

Since the early 90's, author and speaker Christopher West has devoted his life to spreading John Paul II's revolutionary teaching on human life, love, and sexuality: The Theology of the Body. His beloved wife Wendy, mother of their five children, has served as his confidante, friend, and support through these long years of ministry. In this podcast, Christopher and Wendy combine their wisdom to tackle the toughest questions dealing with vocation, sexuality, marriage, and the Catholic faith.

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Episodes

  • TOB Elevator Pitch, Young Mother Open to Dating & Genuine Connection of Those With SSA | ACW302

    October 15th, 2024  |  53 mins 44 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    1. What is a good elevator pitch for the Theology of the Body?
    2. I became pregnant at 17. With the help of my parents and a pregnancy resource center, my son and I have been able to have a very happy life. He’s now 2 and I’m about to turn 20. I’m not with the father of my child. He sees his son from time to time but I’m the one who cares for him. I’m okay with this, but I just don’t know when or how would be the right way to start dating again. I’ve been single since my pregnancy began. I’ve also done a lot of work with myself and became closer to Mary & Jesus. I feel ready to meet new people but I’m not sure how to go about that. I feel isolated in my situation. Do you have any advice?
    3. Can the deep genuine connection between “homosexuals” become holy by refraining from sinful behavior? What would the Church suggest for these couples to do?
  • M*sturbation & Using Oneself, Inviting the Lord Into Our Shameful Places, and Arranged Marriages | ACW301

    October 7th, 2024  |  45 mins 56 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    1. When JPII talks about using another person as a means to an end I always imagine a couple but what happens in the case of a single person who seeks to give pleasure to him or herself? Is the person using him or herself? To what extend does that affect the person or others? Why does this sin leaves a feeling of loneliness?
    2. How do I make steps to open those places to the Lord and to know that He’s not repulsed by what will come out and not ashamed of me because of my porn & masturbation addiction?
    3. What does TOB have to say about arranged marriages?
  • ACW300!!! with Questions from Matt & Cameron Fradd, Jason Evert & Fr. Timothy Gallagher | ACW300

    September 30th, 2024  |  43 mins 38 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    1. What is one way each of you has grown since you got married and what was that growing process like?
    2. What your number one tip for people when discerning a future spouse?
    3. What is the experience of writing a book like for you?
  • Is NFP Sinful?, Diving Into the Mystery of Your Spouse, and Battling Unfaithful Thoughts as a Woman | 299

    September 23rd, 2024  |  57 mins 2 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    1. I’m part of a conservative Catholic group on Facebook. I was surprised to find that many Catholics there believe NFP is contraceptive except in the gravest circumstances. When I questioned this philosophy, they said that the fact that God gave them each of their many children is that it would've been sinful if they had abstained during those fertile times. This didn’t sit right with me. I've always felt that NFP gave me and my husband a profound respect for my body, our fertility, and spacing our family in a way that is respectful of everyone’s needs. I think it's responsible to abstain when you know you cannot take care of another baby. What are your thoughts?
    2. I am in college and I've never dated. However, I'm trying to build my bank of knowledge so I can be as ready as I can when God entrusts a woman to me. That said, my question is about the metaphors you used in your Jordan Peterson & Ben Shapiro reaction video. I don't understand how one can dive into your spouse’s soul and find undiscovered treasures during sex. How can one do that without using words. How is that possible outside of prayer?
    3. I am a 31 year old mother of two beautiful girls and wife to a loving husband. I've struggled with porn and masturbation for many years. Recently I’ve grown deeper in my Catholic faith; doing my best to purify my heart further by diving into my hidden thoughts. I find myself daydreaming and thinking about other men more from emotional fantasy, than from physical attraction. I want to stay mentally faithful to my husband. How can I as woman battle the temptation to have unfaithful thoughts?
  • Bringing Jesus Into the Marital Embrace & Struggling to Find My Wife Attractive | ACW298

    September 16th, 2024  |  1 hr 1 min
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • How can I bring Jesus into the marital embrace without envisioning him sexually and in a pure and holy way?
    • I’ve been struggling to find my wife attractive. Am I justified expecting my wife to shape up for looks’ sake or even for health’s sake? How much of this is the impact that porn has had on me and my perception of beauty?
  • When Jesus Doesn’t Have a Body, Balancing Family Worldviews, and Cremation | ACW297

    September 9th, 2024  |  50 mins 48 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    1. How can we love Jesus on earth when he doesn’t have a body? How can prayer feel more like a full relationship and not just long distance communication
    2. I was homeschooled and raised in a close knit immediate family. We never spent much time with relatives or friends and my parents always sought to solely invest in each other and their children. On the other hand, my husband was raised in a large family where relatives and friendships were very important and he still likes to get together with them. He’s also always willing to get involved with our community and it is hard for me to relate to that. To me, his desire for connection outside our immediate family feels unnatural. How can we embrace these two apparently differing worldviews in our marriage?
    3. Is cremation ever acceptable in the Catholic Church?
  • Ordinary Mysticism, Done Having Kids?, and Buying Catholic Books | ACW296

    September 2nd, 2024  |  40 mins 16 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • What does JPII mean when he talks about Ordinary Mysticism?
    • What would your answer be to when people ask “are you done having kids?”
    • Is there a preferred method when buying books from Catholic authors?
  • Christian Know Thyself, Homosexuality in Nature, and Nuptial Union with Christ | ACW295

    August 26th, 2024  |  57 mins 52 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • I’ve heard Christoper say many times “Christian know thyself” and thought I knew what it meant but have been searching for the quote and can’t seem to find it. Where does this quote come from and what does it mean?
    • How do you respond to the arguments about how homosexuality, masturbation and pedophilia are natural because animals do it?
    • I’ve heard you mention that when a christian prays, he’s seeking nuptial union with Christ. How can we position our hearts to lean more into this? What would be the fruit of this union?
  • Not Being Desired, Uncleanliness & Burial of the Body, and Is Love Always Worth the Risk? | ACW294

    August 19th, 2024  |  53 mins 15 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • How can I show my nieces and nephews my true delight in them and help them feel truly loved and desired in the way that I never felt growing up?
    • I would like to prepare my husband’s body for burial after death. I think I misunderstood the biblical teaching of uncleanliness and handling the dead. Can you help me sort out the fear of being unclean by touching a dead body?
    • Is love worth the risk all the time? If yes, do you have a word of advice for someone who wants to love but at the same time is scared of expressing it?
  • TOB & Racism, Kissing & Arousal, Temptation While Sleeping | ACW293

    August 12th, 2024  |  1 hr 5 mins
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • Can TOB shed any light on the sin of racism?
    • Is it wrong to give a kiss if there’s even the slightest bit of arousal present as a dating couple?
    • I’ve struggled with the sin of masturbation for the past 10 years. It comes and goes in seasons. Recently, I’ve experienced great temptations while I’m asleep. I awaken in the night with urges I can’t control. Do you have any advice?
  • Anything Goes In the Marriage Bed?, Morality of Boudoir Photoshoots and Chastity Book Recommendations | ACW292

    August 5th, 2024  |  50 mins 50 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • I’ve always heard that as long as the sexual union ends in intercourse anything goes but I’ve never heard any guidance on what happens next and what could be considered masturbation in marriage. Do you have any guidance?
    • Are boudoir photoshoots immoral?
    • I’d like to go deeper into the topic of chastity. Which book would you recommend?
  • Dating Before the Fall, Secrecy of Past Sexual Encounters, and Josephs & Mary’s Virginity | ACW291

    July 29th, 2024  |  47 mins 17 secs
    catholic, catholic answers, catholic podcast, catholic questions, christian, christopher west, faith formation, faith questions, john paul ii, jpii, theology of the body, theology of the body institute
    • Would there have been dating and discernment of marriage in the garden before the fall?
    • I’m a young woman soon to be engaged. Before I started dating the man I’m currently with, I had sexual encounters with 2 other guys. He is aware of the first but not the second. Do you have any advice?
    • Why is the word “until” in the verse “He had no relations with her until she bore a son and he named him Jesus” in the Gospel of Matthew?